This subject brought on from a simple post on Facebook about a Christian book that others are interested in reading and I said I wasn’t interested in it mainly because of the description.
“Every woman wants to be a princess” and “Every woman‘s three core desires are: to be romanced, to play a role in her own adventures and to display beauty”
I don’t share those thoughts and find it kinda whacked when anyone claims “Every” because not “every” is factual….and my core desires aren’t anywhere near those…I could care less about ‘being romanced” or being a princess…my core desires are to live a life for Christ, simply be me, be a blessing to others, make a difference in the world….
It has nothing to do with ‘being romanced/princess’ and the only ‘display beauty’ I want to do is for people to see Him and the Holy spirit in me…that’s ‘beauty’ enough.
I don’t need to be spoiled by someone or doted on to feel like I’m a worthy person or loved.
To which one person responded “Tara, you must not be married…we ALL want out men to treat us like princesses…just saying.”
How can people make such generalized comments of “every” and “all“?
Do these people know EVERY and ALL other women?
As a young girl, I never played with Barbies or makeup.
I preferred G.I. Joe and skateboards and getting up at the crack of dawn to deliver newspapers.
I never expected “Prince Charming” to come along to rescue me or sweep me off my feet.
Now after doing some research, I’ve found the definition of princess: a woman considered to have the qualities or characteristics of a princess, a non reigning female member of a sovereign family.
However, in defense of some princesses… I did also find a definition of princess being one who cares about others, is educated, compassionate…
But, for topic of this conversation, the women are talking about basically being spoiled by their husbands and made to feel important by their husbands.
On another site I found this: “But, every girl, at some point in time, wishes she was a princess.”
Another site went on to say, “all women want to be doted upon and spoiled, made to feel glamorous and special.”
And another, “Being a princess means being special and living happily ever after with our Prince Charming.”
And yet another, “Every little girl has dreams of being swept up into a great adventure, of being the beautiful princess.”
hmmmmm as a little girl, I was making my own adventures–traveling with my dad, brother across country, exploring the woods, running and just experiencing life.
Do women really need a Prince to feel special, important, loved?
I, personally, don’t want that…..unless we take into consideration Princess Fiona from Shrek…
who is a down-to-earth and independent woman, who is caring, can kick butt (defend herself), be herself, be strong and be in love….
then fine…
but the “be spoiled” and needing a prince to “rescue/defend”, make one feel glamorous or special, that’s not for me!
So, to the women out there…
How many frogs did you kiss before finding your prince?
Are you happy being yourself and knowing you’re special without the necessity of someone else telling/showing you that?
Or, do you have to have or rely on someone else to make you feel important?
Do you need a prince to rescue you?
Or can you make your own future?
And, to the men out there…
Do you prefer someone who knows she’s important, special without you having to constantly reassure her?
Would you like someone who’s confident on her own or someone who totally relies on you for her feelings?
*Disclaimer*
There are no right or wrong answers.
Just trying to get people to understand that in this conversation and any other topic there is no “every/all” since there will be exceptions.
If we ALL thought the same, wanted the same things, acted the same…what a boring life that would be!
That, and “Princess Tara” just somehow doesn’t sound as good as “Tara Burner”…
Plus, I don’t think “princess attire” includes cargo shorts, tank tops and yoga sandals…
Good read here Tara. Personally I would prefer a woman who has a mind of her own and doesn’t rely on me to make her feel needed, at least not all the time. Granted I of course would make a woman feel special and loved but I don’t think a woman should impose that need of theirs on their mate or companion to constantly fulfill.