I’m not sure why but lately I’ve been hearing more and more people (both men and women) who are relying on someone else to make them feel good, or worthy.
I don’t understand that concept.
You cannot rely on somebody else to make you feel important.
You must care about yourself and know that you are important and worthy.
The feelings of worth you may be experiencing from someone else aren’t lasting.
You may feel happy but are you truly experiencing joy and happiness?
You need to be content, happy and find joy in who you are without someone else having to reassure you or be responsible for making you feel that way.
People will ultimately let you down, but if you’re confident in who you are and can be happy with yourself then you won’t be reliant on others.
My friend Scott Gendreau posted this earlier:
“Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who your are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.”
A week or so ago, I blogged about some women who insist that their husbands treat them like Princesses.
I was dumbfounded, because I honestly thought in these times we were beyond that.
Apparently, I was wrong!
Evident by the posts on Facebook and messages I received regarding that matter as well as all the others this week who’ve been talking about their need to have someone make them happy.
No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change.
– Barbara De Angelis
Now, mind you I’m not saying that you shouldn’t be in a relationship or married or anything like that.
But, what I am saying is you shouldn’t depend on that person to validate who you are.
Be strong, be secure, be confident, be happy, be content…without relying on someone else to make you feel those things!
I am responsible for my own well-being, my own happiness. The choices and decisions I make regarding my life directly influence the quality of my days.
– Kathleen Tierney Andrus