As most of you know, I’m not big on people telling me what to do (never have been, never will be).
I don’t tell anyone how to run their life, what to eat, what weight to be, what to do with their bodies or anything else so I would like the same respect.
Of course if someone is insane stupid enough to try to tell me, be forewarned, you will get an earful from me.
During the past week I’ve been told by acquaintances and/or people I do business with…
Don’t lose any more weight –umm really? since when did my weight become your issue?
since when did your opinion matter to me? Sorry but I do what I feel is best for me and since I’m single, there is no opinion that really matters when it comes to what I do with my body thank you very much.
do I tell you to lose weight? or gain weight? or anything about your weight? NO! (unless you hire me as your coach otherwise, your weight is your business, not mine)
do you know my starting weight? Nope..not unless you read my about page or saw it on tumblr
do you even have a clue how much I weigh now? Probably not – so how are you even justifying your comment to not lose any more?
do you know my ultimate goal? Nope..because only 2 people on this earth know what my ultimate fitness goal is! and unless you’re Joann or myself then nope you aren’t privy to that! I’m keeping that to myself because I don’t want to listen to people attempt to talk me out of it or have their negative input anywhere near me! Though I am starting to connect with some more supportive people who have similar goals or have already accomplished what I want to so that’s a good thing. Though you’d think with the following I have on Facebook and on Twitter, and in some groups I’d have more like minded support…but apparently that’s not the case, which is why this one huge goal remains off limits until I’m ready to reveal.
You REALLY need to do annual mammograms — no thanks, I’d prefer not flattening my ta-ta’s into pancakes and getting a dose of radiation.
You should go to the dr, you’re a female — wow, I thought it was general knowledge that I do not go to dr’s. Two pregnancies (16 & 23 yrs ago) that’s all I need thank you very much.
Side note: I don’t go to dentists either…dare I mention I’ve only gotten my teeth professionally cleaned 3 times in the last 30+ yrs and have no issues with them, teeth are white, gums are healthy, and in fact still have all 4 of my wisdom teeth and only 2 fillings, and honestly if I ever go to the dentist it would be to the cosmetic dentists in NYC!
I don’t lecture anyone on their lifestyle choices…so don’t try to do so to me!
Though, it’s kinda whacked that people have no issue telling others to go to dr’s, eat meat, get into politics yet if I were to start randomly telling people I encounter in my daily outings to go vegetarian/vegan, avoid dr’s and live a clean lifestyle then they’d be in an uproar about how pushy, demanding, nosey I am…yet they do the exact thing?
Who made certain viewpoints acceptable and others not?
This pretty much sums it up:
“You worry about you, I’ll worry about me .”
— Annalee Ayala
I have more than enough going on in my own life to be concerned with what you do with yours!
Not to mention what you do doesn’t affect me so why would I care what you do with yours?
And, I know what I do with myself, my body, my weight has zero bearing on your life so back off, mind your own business and be concerned with what’s going on in your own life and not my weight or whether I go to a dr or not…
If you don’t truly care about the important things that are going on in someone’s life, don’t try to get in their business about things that aren’t that big of a deal and that don’t concern you then.
Question of the day
What is one of your pet peeves?
Dave says
Preach it girl.
KymberlyFunFit says
So I should scrap my list of things you need to do? Mwah haa I have a feeling tomorrow will be a better day with people less inclined to direct you. I got a kick out of the Ann Landers quote. Think I might use that….
Miz says
YOU ARE THE EXPERT OF YOU.Ive learned never to force what I think for me on other people.
xo
Larisa Dixon says
I agree totally. If people would worry about what there doing and not what everyone else is doing, this world would be a much more peaceful place. Great post;)
Glenneth says
One of my pet peeves is people telling me I can’t/shouldn’t eat something because I am supposed to be on a diet. It makes me want to punch them.
AmyC says
tailgaters. drive me crazy and they’re everywhere! is the earth on fire somewhere?
Kierston says
I laughed at the first image you posted lol
Live your life because, well, it’s yours to live :)Reach for the stars!
Katie @wishandwhimsy says
I hear what you’re saying. It’s hard to express to others your own personal goals. No one understands except our own. I try to remember that those comments are derived from love and care, but I know it still gets frustrating when they aren’t driving the wheel of your life.
Jody - Fit at 54 says
I am sure some of it is just plain concern out of love but we have to respect others & that it is their life. As for your teeth – I HATE YOU! 😉 Not really but I do EVERYTHING you are supposed to & have problems every time I go in! It sicks! 😉
Debbie @ Live from La Quinta says
I totally agree (although I do get my tatas squished every year :-)). Why do some people think they can tell you, or even suggest, how to live?
Steph @fitmomtraining says
Only you are the master of you.
That first image made me snort. I need to give that to my MIL. In poster size.
Mindy @Road Runner Girl says
Great post! People are way too worried about what’s going on in other people’s lives when they should worry about their own!
Melissa Engel says
To keep a positive frame of mind I establish boundaries with my friends. If they cross the boundaries and their friendship means enough to me a friendly discussion is needed. If they can’t give me the respect that expect from them then they can no longer be considered a friend. To be who I want to be I don’t allow negative energy or toxic people in my life. PROBLEM SOLVED!!
StoriesAndSweetPotatoes says
Arg I totally feel you here. Also super intrigued by some of the lifestyle choices you mentioned. I’m a big fan of people just doing what they want. Shouldn’t we all?
Chris says
HAHA Luv it! Isn’t it amazing that people feel they have to get in your business? WOW Last time I looked, you were an adult that has successfully raised children that are not criminals or deranged and you take care of yourself in a healthy manner … Far as I can see, You don’t need another mother telling you what to do (not that you do anyway! LOL)
MYOB is right! That is my mantra around here too!
Pati Clark says
WOW Tara …!!!! I bet you feel better after that post! ….Keep up the good work …It is great to set goals and achieve them ….that is exactly what I’m doing! Keep going strong …