While this past weekend has been emotional, hard, it’s also be defining and enlightening.
It started off with a cry for help (and some great promotional offers if you need help with social media or advertising), it lead to an awesome church service reaffirming it’s ok (we’re SUPPOSED) to be happy!

I actually have had multiple people email me now (since my weekly update post even MORE have emailed me) saying that they flat out will not buy any of my services nor help with a donation because I’m too happy given my circumstances…
again..ummm ok?!
Yes, I’m in a bad place right now
Yet, at the same time I have a lot to be thankful for and I choose to focus on the positive, the blessings, the happiness opposed to all the other nonsense.
So, apparently to them I should be holed up in the corner of my room in the fetal position…
how’s that going to help?

So, here’s the deal…
Yes, I still need to get $2840 before May 30th.
Yes, I’m standing in faith and believing…
Yes, I’m working and trying to get more work…
Yes, I’m giving thanks for every blessings…no matter how small…

Meanwhile, I’m turning my back to (to stop being involved in something):
fear
hateful & negative people (though I will pray for them that they become happy and positive)
lack
nay-sayers & haters
self hate
anger
doubt
insecurity

Question of the day
What are you turning your back to?
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I can’t help it that blog post topics come to me sometimes in the most random spots
like waiting
and waiting
and waiting
and waiting…
in line at the court house to set my speeding ticket for court date
as tweeted…
note the tweet on top which was after I left the court house (for speeding ticket nonetheless)

Meanwhile, while I patiently waited did walking lunges in the back of room 200 at the courthouse while all the strange people were cussing about how slow it was and babies screaming, I was thinking about the conversation I had had a few minutes prior to going in there.

A guy who I had to ask which room I was supposed to go to and then started talking about work, etc. said that I look like the type that would speed…
“free spirited do what she wants type of girl”
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm pretty much spot on.
Am I really that easy to read?
Apparently so, since it’s been said multiple times by people who have no clue who I am or anything about me…
hmmmmm could it have been the tee w/”peace” all over it? the yoga sandals? the freshly wind blown hair?
Dunno, but got me thinking about are we really who we present ourselves as?
I mean I did wear a biz suit once and I’m pretty sure nobody said I looked like a ‘free spirit’ in it.

Then again, I did have to add my own style with the hair…

Meanwhile, how do you represent yourself?
Are you easy to read?
Are you being yourself?
Or, do you try to hide what you’re about?

Like I said, I have random thoughts in random places then lucky you gets to read about them!

So, enough of my ramblings…
go out and be yourself today and do it with pride!

Question of the day:
What 3 words do people use to describe you?

Be yourself…
it’s the best person you can be!

Don’t change or act a certain way to appease someone else.
BE YOURSELF!

Seriously, be yourself.
Be true to who YOU are and your values, beliefs and simply what you want to do and who you want to be!!!

Question of the day
Use 1-5 words to describe who YOU are!

Each of us is somebody!

Do you like who you are?

As messed up as some of my days are, and with some of the bullshit nonsense I deal with I’m still glad to be ME!

My life hasn’t been easy, but in comparison to others it hasn’t been hard either.
It is what it is…LIFE!

We all go through situations that can either make us stronger or crush us.
It’s up to each of us to make the decision what effect life will have on us.

Some grow up to be what their parents want them to be, some have goals of their own, some are simply free spirited and go with the flow…uncertain of their direction, but yet enjoying life as it comes at them.

Some become confident, secure, strong and embrace who they are.
Others…well, they rely on things to make them feel good or other people to make them feel safe.
That’s craziness.
That’s no way to live.
If you can’t be happy with who you are, then you’re really not experiencing true happiness.
What happens when others aren’t around to hold you up?
What happens when the things aren’t there (they get lost, stolen, fall apart)?
What then?
You’re an empty shell of a person.

If nothing else, people know I am who I am, say what I have to say and am real, genuine and ME.
Other people hide behind nice clothes, jewelry, fancy cars, big houses and yet they have no clue who they are.
I totally know who I am.
(even though others attempt to tell me who I am, when they in all actuality have no clue who I really am)

Are you asking what’s up with the hippie VW Vanagon?
Well, I’ll tell you…
Every summer my dad, brother and I used to travel…
drives from PA to anywhere in the states…including one year driving to Alaska (before the Alaska highway was even paved!)

Now, as y’all have probably already figured I was pretty much a black sheep and did whatever I wanted and never really gave after high school much thought.
I had dreamed of just hitting the road in a 68 Camaro or GTO with my dog (which I didn’t even have at the time, but figured I’d get me a big bad dog to travel with me lol).
Seeing the states and working doing odd/end jobs to get money to get to my next destination was my plan.
Not exactly the dream college/career path parents hope their child will take!
Needless to say, that’s not the path I took (not far from it on a smaller level though).
Instead, I hitch hiked from PA, ended up in FL after going through Indiana, Mississippi, Alabama (I do not suggest this means of travel now though).
I became a wife (thankfully that didn’t last long) then a single mother, then a mother again and now that my daughter has 3 more years of high school it got me thinking about what I’ll do when she’s off on her own.
Will I be a sad empty nester?
NOPE!
Will I miss her when she goes to college or whatever?
YES! DUH! OF.COURSE.I.WILL.
And, hey who knows maybe by then she’ll want to join me on my journey to travel the states!
(then on to England, Ireland, Australia, Greece, Rome, Italy and who knows where else)
But, in time, I plan on packing it up and hitting the road (at least for a year).
Traveling in a VW Vanagon.
I don’t have things and have minimal clothing so I’m sure everything I need could fit easily in a VW.
As long as I have internet, laptop, cell phone I should be good to go!
I can teach yoga classes as I go, do some hypnosis or weight coaching as I go and meet people in other locations or make money online and live off PayPal debit card?!
I could do odds/ends on a farm to get fresh veggies and fruit or pay.
I could do whatever….
The thing is this, I am me…
not dependent on things to make me feel like a fulfilled person.
I’d rather experience life than be held prisoner by things and other people who need to lift me up and boost my self esteem & confidence (I don’t need that-because in reality the majority of people around try to do complete opposite…trash me, tear me down).

Is this the ideal future that parents want for their child?
Who knows.
Most people do their traveling in between high school and college or after college and before family.
Well, I”m too old for that…have already lived those years.
So, my choice is do it in 3 or 4 years or don’t bother doing it.

I once had a dream of owning a totally sustainable environmentally friendly resort with multiple buildings, beach entry salt water pool, yoga building, kitchen, gardens, water features and more. It was going to be ideal. It was going to be LEED certified.
It was also going to cost about $6 MILLION.
Needless to say, that dream has been put on hold until I win the Lottery (hmmmm, I think I have to play it though to win it?!)

So, instead my plan is simple…
enjoy my daughter, enjoy life and experience life and what it holds…

Question of the day
Are you living the life you thought you would be?
Are you happy, I mean TRULY REALLY happy?
What would you do if you could do anything?
Are you being true to who you really are? or are you living your life for someone else?

This weekend I had a lot of time to contemplate things.
Remembering who I used to be, acknowledging who I am now, and contemplating who I want to be.
And, now I know what I have to do to regain my self back and be the Tara I’m meant to be!

Many are someone else to appease others in our lives…be it a parent, significant other, friends, etc.
Are you being true to yourself?
Are you the person you want to be?

Tips on how to be yourself
Don’t try to be someone else-you’ll never be able to be anyone other than who you are-so don’t waste your time.
Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.
~Judy Garland
Accept any mistakes you’ve made in the past and move on-learning from them.
Be open and honest-show how you really feel-don’t be an imitation of someone else or be fake.
Don’t worry about pleasing others or how others will feel-you can’t please all the people all the time-you can’t control how people perceive you.
Be prepared to deal with people who want to change you, make you something that you aren’t-be strong and true to your beliefs and personality.
Remember that a number on the scale doesn’t define who you are.
In the end, you’re the one who has to be you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week…are you happy who you are?

Question of the day:
Are you being the real you?
Who do you want to be?
What are you doing to be that person?

We’ve made mistakes
We’ve done things we wish we hadn’t
We’ve not done things we wish we had

It’s never too late.
As long as you’re breathing, you’re able to make a new ending!

We may go full circle
starting over where we once ended years before
thinking that we couldn’t do something or letting others get in our way

As long as you start now
do what you have to do
be who you want to be
you can make a new ending!

My friend, Timothy Carter posted this quote:
What you do today can improve all your tomorrows. ~Ralph Marston

Start right now…
today…
to make your new ending!

What are YOU doing to start your new ending?

We are each individuals, unique beings…

We are all pieces of a huge puzzle.
I’ve spent the last few days discovering new things, meeting new people…
seeing that we all are connected and yet doing our own separate things.

Earlier I posted about opening & closing doors and being myself.

Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else. ~Judy Garland

Tell us (comment below this is your chance-to let the world know about you, your biz, whatever) something about you…
Describe yourself…
what you do, who you are, what you stand for…
include your url, Facebook, Twitter and/or LinkedIn pages in the comment as well so others can connect with you as well!

As for me, in a nutshell, I’m a God lovin’, health & fitness lovin’, eco-lovin’, yoga lovin’, travel lovin’ entrepreneur who enjoys life, helping others, makes $ to support her family & blesses others.
I also am working on some new goals, projects and more will come!
And, if we’re not connected everywhere, then go to the links on the right here for some of the places you can find me

Learn to… be what you are, and learn to resign with a good grace all that you are not. ~Henri Frederic Amiel

Earlier this week I posted a note on Facebook but thought I’d put it here as well.

One of the comments left on the note was from Diane Cunningham and said “Great job on this Tara! I support you completely…..go where God leads! He will close some doors and open others! Amen to following and listening.”

Teri Undreiner said, “Wonderful Tara! I noticed that I usually did what “others” though I should be doing. I quit “should”en all over myself and stepped into freedom of who I already was, and I’m living FROM freedom now rather than the “I shoulds”. POWERFUL! AMEN to your post! You go girl!

and Stephanie Tweed said, “I agree Tara…this is good confirmation for me too! I have been meditation on that Scripture today: “So be content with who you are, and don’t put on airs. God’s strong hand is on you; He’ll promote you at the right time.” ~ I Peter 5:6 The Message

There were a lot of other comments too….

The note itself read:

Sorry had to do this as a note since it’s over 1000 characters can’t post as a status or on wall! LOL
but some food for thought today:
sometimes God creates us to be something different than we originally thought we were supposed to be.
He can use us in ways we may not see at the time.
He may direct us to do things (personal/work) that may not seem big at the time,but He puts us where we can be of better use than where perhaps we thought we should be.
He also uses us in all levels/lines of work/life-yes a lot of thinking going on last few days here.
If one decides not to be an inspiration/life coach that doesn’t make them any lesser of a person than if they decided to or focus on Team Beachbody, nutrition, Holy Yoga…
He uses us where He wants us and somehow He gets us to that place where we’re supposed to be…
even when we take detours and wrong turns…

I’m refocusing (evident by the sale of many of my sites/domains & birth of a new biz) I had thought I was to be an inspiration coach,yet months later discover that I was where I was supposed to be years ago but didn’t realize it…fitness/nutrition coaching…so back to that & add mobile spray tanning to the list.

I’m active, not stuck to my phone or computer and doing something ‘different/exciting’ & still helping people & still inspiring people but not in the same method…but by ‘seeing’ rather than being told…

I’m happier spray tanning & doing yoga, fitness training than I was coaching others via phone/teleconference- basically be who HE created you to be-not what you think others think you should be…hope that makes sense…in overdrive here…thoughts going faster than fingers!

That was the original note on Facebook…
Since then I’ve received DM’s and emails saying that I inspired others to be themselves, stand up for what they believe and go after their desires…
so, see even without the title of “Inspiration Coach”, I still inspire…while still being me!
Be yourself!
Enjoy life!

Today’s day 11 of 31 Days of Gratitude.

Today (and every day usually), I’m grateful for being me.
Yep, I’m happy being ME…
the person God created me to be!

Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else. ~Judy Garland

Sometimes, it really bites…
and it can be difficult dealing with lots of nonsense
but that’s life…
God doesn’t say there won’t be hard times but He is present so the hard times aren’t as hard as they’d be without Him.

Other times, it’s a wonderful thing being me
the “God lovin’, health & fitness lovin’, eco-lovin’, yoga lovin’ entrepreneur trying to enjoy life, help others, make money to support herself/family & bless others” me!

It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are. ~e.e. cummings

While I’m being me, I’m still growing and becoming who I’m supposed to be.
I’m no where near done becoming “me”
and I know that, so every day I keep working and striving to be who I’m supposed to be…ME!

What are YOU grateful for today?

Comment below or on Facebook

I was having a great conversation with good friend of mine this morning, Rebecca (Becky) Springfield about people being real and how we should be ourselves, not try to fit in (especially when it’s apparent that that’s not going to happen), and to just be what/who God created us to be.

“Stop trying to fit in when you were born to stand out.” -Movie: What a Girl Wants

It was an enlightening and confirming talk, because lately I’ve not felt like I ‘fit in’ where I am (which then again, if I were to REALLY think about it, I’d realize that I’ve never ‘fit in’).
And, over the course of the last few days, I’ve finally realized I’m not supposed to ‘fit in’!
I’m supposed to be ME!
And sure, many won’t like me but that’s fine, they don’t have to…only the ones that I’m supposed to be liked by and be around will!
That’s the way it should be, not dwelling on those who don’t like me because I’m different than they are…how boring would the world be if everyone was the same!
I’m who God created me to be!
I’m where He wants me to be (at least for now-and that’s a hard one to accept-especially when I don’t like where I am now! lol)

But, I need to simply be me…Tara Burner…Jesus lovin’, eco lovin’, Holy Yoga lovin’, health & fitness lovin’, helpful caring ME!
And, make money in whatever way He leads me and just do whatever it takes to be real and enjoy the life I have.
And God willing, I’ll inspire others along the way and be able to assist others to live the life they want….
whether they just need a boost in the right direction, someone to help them workout & get in shape (physically or spiritually) or whatever….

I don’t need to and aren’t supposed to be like other Inspiration/Life Coaches…
I’m me and will coach my way–by example and speaking from experience-not something others have picked up in books or school and not real life!

I don’t need (nor do I want) a fancy car or huge gas guzzling SUV (in fact I want a Smart Car!)
I don’t need (nor do I want) a huge house…in fact, Bethany Meneses-Green Architect and I already know
what kind of house I want her to design–one totally sustainable, eco-friendly complete with salt water beach entry pool and a place to teach yoga, meditation and hold Inspiration parties and to simply enjoy life!

So, that’s my inspiration for today….BE YOURSELF!
and, if you do need help along the way, I do offer help in a variety of ways.

Or, just continue to read the blog, or catch me on Twitter and Facebook where I’m always posting and communicating with others trying to make a difference in this world in some way.

If God had wanted me otherwise, He would have created me otherwise. ~Johann von Goethe

Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else. ~Judy Garland